Fostering Myths

#385 “Every child is a fountain of joy.”
#386 “Every child is an endless supply of misery.”
In reality, every foster child has individual strengths and challenges. By matching each child to the ability, experience, and comfort level of their foster family, we make it easier and more rewarding for everyone.

#614 “The flood gate is your front door.”
In reality, our goal is to achieve a comfortable, low-stress environment for every foster family and foster child. So whether it’s a few children or just one child, any help you can give will make all the difference to our foster kids. Foster parents have the right to decline accepting placement of a child offered to them without reprisal. It is important to know yourself and your family’s capacity and to know you have a voice.

#428 “Applicants must be rich, Christian, mortgage free, and direct descendents of British royalty.”
In reality, foster parents can be from any cultural background, single or common-law couples, home owners or renters, middle class, of modest income, or even retired. Knowing that you don’t have to be an impossibly perfect super-parent is just one more reason to consider fostering.

#73 “We’ll throw you to the wolves with nothing but a half-hearted ‘good luck’.”
In reality, all foster parents are provided with ongoing training and assistance for any issue that might arise. From access to a foster home support worker to allowances for major and miscellaneous fees, we’re here to help you every step of the way.

#824 “No one cares what age or gender you would prefer.”
In reality, we take into account your wishes and what fits best with your family before placing a child in your care. Making everyone comfortable with the foster situation ensures the most welcoming experience for the foster child.

#216 “They’re all perfect little angels.”
#217 “They’re all mischievous little troublemakers.”
In reality, foster children run the whole spectrum of personalities. By finding the right fit between the challenges of the child and the abilities of the foster family, we make life better for everyone.

#154 “You’ll get diapers, sex questions, and trig homework all on the first day.”
In reality, while we do expect our foster parents to hit the ground running, you will have developed a working relationship with us in the home study phase. This knowledge will help us make the journey manageable for the foster child and for you. So whether your foster child is a newborn baby, an active toddler, or an awkward teen, we’ll be there to support you.

#592 “It’s a great way to get rich.”
#593 “It’s a guaranteed way to go broke.”
In reality, foster parents will receive a per diem rate to cover most of the child’s or children’s expenses. But let’s be real: the regular monthly rate for a child newborn to 11 is $663.30 for a 30 day month and $823.50 for a child aged 11-17. Most foster parents do dip into their own pocket and it is important to consider that when applying to foster. We do not expect foster parents to subsidize foster children. But most families tell us those extras are not always financial that tell the child they are part of the family are vital.

#19 “You’ve got to be Mother Theresa.”
In reality, foster parents come to us with a wide variety of life experiences. Mostly, we are looking for people who want to make a difference in a child’s life – people who know how to use their words and not physical force to make changes in behaviour, can wait to see results, understand that small things matter big, and can look for the positive or at least be willing to be led there.

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#1 “Someone like you can’t be a foster parent.”
It starts by contacting us. Find out how you can help a foster child by calling 204-726-7190 (toll free 1-800-483-8980) or emailing fostering@cfswestern.mb.ca.